Just Talking: The Role of the “Relationship Conversation” In Cutting Through or Maintaining Ambiguity

Authors: Ashley Kiefer, Marit Elianna Epstein

Field of Study: Psychology

Program Affiliation: Binghamton Human Sexualities Lab, Binghamton University Projects for New Undergraduate Researchers (BUPNUR)

Faculty Mentors: Melissa Hardesty

Easel: 99

Timeslot: Midday

Abstract: “Just talking” is a popular term used by young adults to describe an ambiguous form of romantic interaction while downplaying its significance (Hardesty et al., 2024). Ambiguity allows individuals to craft their own unique relationship norms but also prompts a “relationship conversation” to clarify norms and expectations (Knopp, 2019). This becomes a crucial part of the “just talking” phenomenon. This study analyzed interviews conducted with 17 Binghamton University students who reported that they were “just talking” to one or more people. Participants completed three semi-structured interviews spaced three to four weeks apart. Analysis focused on the function of the relationship conversation. Results suggest that often after a “relationship conversation” happens, relationships either progress towards commitment, end, or continue in the ambiguous mode of “just talking”. Ultimately, although the relationship conversation purports to clarify relationship status, it often fortifies or preserves ambiguity within “just talking”.